Friday, May 8, 2020

Ideal World vs Realistic World. Its on. - When I Grow Up

Ideal World vs Realistic World. Its on. - When I Grow Up IDEAL WORLD: Wake up an hour early twice a week to run on the treadmill. Do it again on the weekend. Clear 2 hours in your schedule to return all your phone calls. Take a yoga class for 90 minutes every Saturday. Have it take 15 minutes to clean up each room in your house. Clean one room/day have 3 days to rest. Start finish a research paper in a month. Wake up at 10a on a Saturday to do laundry. Do one big grocery shop every Monday night. REALISTIC WORLD: The bed is warm. Outside is cold. The treadmill is in a windowless basement and it might be used by someone else. You didnt get to sleep until midnight anyway. I can run tomorrow. In the 2 hours you scheduled to return calls talk to 5 people, 1 of them picks up. And they have to be somewhere in 10 minutes. Realize that between changing for yoga class, walking to yoga class, being early to buy a class/get a good spot, taking the class walking back, youre looking at sacrificing 2+ hours of precious weekend time. Dont make good on your commitment to not put paper down, or to hang up your clothes every day, or to put away your shoes. What should take 15 minutes if you were disciplined takes 45. You dread Living Room Clean-Up Day and it falls by the wayside. Ignore the time you scheduled for yourself to start the research paper. Theres a class to take! And TV to watch! And youre sooooo tired anyway, your brain wont even work. Saturday is the one day to sleep in! If you get up before 11a its impossible to get off the couch much before 12:30p. But Sat morning time is precious coffee, bagels, The Soup, hubby time. We have enough groceries. We just need some coffee, some turkey, chicken, soup, bread, salsa, lettuce, tomatoes, apples.Ill order it online for delivery so it could be here tomorrow. The convenience is worth the marked-up prices. Oh wait, were not home tomorrow! OK, so the day after.Ill just buy lunch instead of brown-bagging tomorrowAnd well order in dinner.. I hate to say it, but Ideal World is where my intentions live (I like to think they reside in a 1,000 square foot Manhattan loft that was purchased for under $100K 15 years ago is now worth about $2 mil). I spend countless hours learning about organizational tools  and being productive even getting wonderful e-sessions by a professional organization coach! and I go through all the motions. I do all of the steps. I put my tasks in my calendar. I block my time into categories so I know that my social time for right now should only be scheduled on Fri Sat nights. But my intentions do not live where Realistic World lives.   Realistic World is full of fun friends, and family functions, and forty-two inch TVs, and other f words (get your mind out of the gutter). Its where the clothes go on the floor instead of in the laundry bag, and shoes remain in the living room instead of in the closet, and where its emotionally hard to leave your hubbys side to do your own work in the cavernous bedroom. And youre tired. A lot. I need to find the balance. And the commitment. And the responsibility. And the grown-up in me. Think I can find Good Intentions World instead? Eh who am I kidding? I wouldnt want to live there anyways.

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